If the Tulsa county Family Court system had a collective concience, Jerry Perigo would be an extreme embarrassment. Unforfunately, the court and a disturbing number of the attorneys who practice there do not.
Jerry Perigo is guilty of odious crimes against minor children and their divorcing parents...crimes against humanity.
He is easily bought by wealthy litigants and corrupt law firms that deliver an endless pipeline of court ordered referrals from corrupt judges looking for future employment when, in the very rare event that their conduct becomes sufficiently embarrasing, they are fired.
As obnoxious as Jerry Perigo's flamboyantly abusive behavior (partially discribed in the preceeding commentaries) is, his most vile offense is that he preys upon and permanently damages minor childeren for his own personal financial gain and depraved ammusment.
If you think Jerry cares about the devastation he and the shameless Tulsa family courts routinely inflict, look into his own family history. Talk to other victims of the courts and Jerry Perigo.
Edmund Burke said: "All that is required for the triumph of evil, is that good men do nothing."
There is not a single particpant in the Tulsa County Court System who has the character to do anything about these corrupt parenting coordinators, judges and attorneys.
They all talk about it in private, but not one will step forward and start the cleanup. How can they be good, honest men and women of concience if they know about, but consistently ignore, the corruption. I know many of them and each is a self interested coward.
There is a special place in hell for Jerry Perigo and all of those who tolerate his conduct. I am among those rooting for his expeditious arrival. In the best of circumstances, he'll be traveling in the company of the co-conspirators, with whom he contributes daily to the misery of the children of divorcing Tulsans. It will be an excellent start!
Everything that has been written about this court ordered mediator has been experienced by us, too. As a woman, I was warned how to act in front of him by a female friend who also was forced to use Perigo. She told me to not even make eye contact with him, if at all possible. I understand what she meant now.
Perigo acts like an angry, malicious, power mongering control freak who often acts close to violence when provoked in the least way. He acts like he hates everyone in the room, especially if you are a strong and assertive woman. He is particularly spiteful if you even try to politely voice an opinion which he perceives as bucking his authority. If you try to humbly stand up to him, he takes great offense as you are therefore jeopardizing his power position as the Alpha Male who actually relishes in the sick "game" that he is in complete control of your life, your livelihood and your future relationship with your children.
Perigo acts like he is a woman-hater, who, however, doesn't act like he has much use for men either. He acts and looks miserable, as if he hates the world. It is no surprise to me or to my husband why he himself is divorced. I can't imagine Perigo allowing another mediator to try to help him in a similar situation as ours. Who needs God when you think you are God?
Cons: He should be investigated and then disbarred!
I was assigned to Mr Perigo, by the courts, for several issues between my ex and myself regarding our daughter. The final time we went, was because my ex had gotten drunk to the point of passing out while he had our daughter for the weekend. My ex was told that if Mr Perigo ever got another report of this happening, it was THEN that consequences would be administered. It is stated in our divorce decree that those things are not to happen while the child is present, so that, as far as I'm concerned was his warning....
During the meeting, Mr Perigo called each of us down for "pointing" and warned that the next time either one of us pointed, the meeting was over. I used hand motions to convey a point and he slapped our folder closed and charged us for the full hour, we were only about 18 minutes into the meeting. If the pointing was a problem for him, petty at best...I would have expected to be told about it prior to the meeting and issued hand cuffs at the door, so that we didn't use hand movements for talking as most of the population does. I could have understood better if we were climbing over the table to claw each others eyes out, but we weren't being uncivil in the least, neither one of us. When the report of the meeting came to me via e-mail, the primary reason for the meeting, the being drunk in the presence of the child, was only sparcley discussed in the body of the report, not even mentioned in the outline of the main reasons for the meeting in the first place. Not being completely truthful on the reports that he submits to the Judge, was yet another issue. Another reason for the meeting was that there was NO contact betweeen my daughter and her dad until they got together for the weekends, he gave a resolution for more contact between my daugter and her dad, by suggesting that my daughter call her dad. Excuse me? Who is the adult here, and who should be fostering the relationship??? Not the child. Not a good resolution to that issue....and we paid him for that advice? Mr Perigo told me that the fact that my ex and his daughter had no relationship (other than when he has her for his weekends) was not my problem. HMMM Mr Perigo is not the one who has to answer the child's questions. So, YES IT IS MY PROBLEM. Mr Perigo seems very insensitive and non-caring, as well as not equipped for the job.
This person seriously has me doubting where his best interests for the child are, it sure wasn't in my daughters' corner.
Cons: the entire experience
Jerry yelled at me during a PC meeting over false allegations my ex husband brought up and when I showed proof to defend myself he became very verbally abusive threatened to kick me out of his office and take custody away from me if I continued. He refused to listen to me or look at my evidence. He lied in his report saying I showed no proof and twisted my ex husbands allegations to make them sound worse and lied about dates. And when I proved my own allegations towards my ex husband he reported that the reason my ex husband had violated the terms of the decree was because I had violated them first. But I have proof to show that was not how it happened. We came to him in order to agree to things out of court but Jerry always recommends we go to court to solve things and recommends things in his reports that we did not even argue about. My ex husband and I NEVER argued or brought up spring or fall breaks as an issue but Jerry felt we should in fact go to court for that. My ex husband even felt bad for the abuse Jerry put me through that he began to communicate better with me and we are getting along so much better now. NEVER attend a PC meeting with Jerry on a weekend because there is nobody in his office and he will mistreat you till he is satisfied. I was crying and he did not even have remorse, he continued to yell and make threats. In fact, my ex-husband and I have come to agreements outside of what Jerry had recommended and do not even need him anymore but Jerry did not report this to the court. He turned in his report of recommendations that are different then what my ex husband and I agreed on. For instance, my ex is in the military and he asked for alternating visits with our child to make up for the time lost when he goes on military training and we have agreed on it but Jerry has not reported this to the court, in fact Jerry recommends that my ex and I go to court for it and has said awful things about me and lied saying I refuse to let my ex make up his military leave without reporting any of my objections and reasons for my objections. He just wants an easy paycheck and that is very obvious! How can a PC lie and recommend things on issues we have not even brought to the table and how could he stand on a recommendation to go to court on an issue we already agreed on. He wants to make the judge think my ex and I are still disagreeing on things so he can continue to be our PC and collect a check! He is unethical and a liar!
Cons: costly and biased
Nice people, nice enviroment, and very understanding to your situation. Good for people that are getting divorced and have kids.
Pros: Good and understanding
Cons: pricey, but who isn't
Husband went to Mr. Perigo as a parent coordinator in the hopes of getting some justice against an ex that doesn't care about their child. She doesn't pay her child support, never calls their son, has a man with 3 warrants against him for a fiance and she had just gotten a DUI and had her license suspended. Mr. Perigo saw nothing wrong with that. He still allowed her to keep her bi-weekly visitation with no consequences. This man is only sitting behind a desk for his paycheck!
Cons: High Priced